Ahmad Farid

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Circles

Build up that image in your mind and imagine it clearly. The life of every individual on earth can be represented as a circle whose radius elongates by time. The area of this circle represents the experience, knowledge gained and time lived by that person. Intersection between one or more circles represents a certain type of relationship between them. For instance, you will find your circle intersecting with your friends at university or school and that the area of the overlap will be larger than the overlap with your friends at work in case you haven’t known them for long time. And here’s your brother’s circle intersects with yours and your life partner’s as he gets in touch with both of you. Lots of circles will be intersecting at a certain area like area of work for example but it will be quite small, on the other hand only a few circles will share a large area with you which represents people closest to you like your life partner, your best friend or a close member of the family.

Overlapping won’t be only in case of long term relationships. Just you going to buy something from the grocer’s or having your hair cut at the barbers’. So overlapping is any interaction between you and another individual no matter how long it takes.

Unfortunately due to difference in way of thinking, education, standard of life, age, experience and lots of factors of life conflicts arise. Some people are not flexible or adaptable enough to be able to intersect with other circles without causing troubles to themselves or others. So you’ll either expand your area of intersection or stay isolated. Live together or die alone.

I was thinking about the top two intersections. The first in terms of area and first in terms of number of circles meeting at the same point. The first one I guess it can be your life partner who you will be living with for the rest of your life. For the second one, I think it will be for the greatest number of people doing the same thing and having the same thought at the same instance. I think a picture will do a better job in that case. You’d better see it at full size.

I am rude, therefore I am strong

When you are walking down the streets, when you come to interact with people or see how people are acting with each other, you will realize that everyone hates the other unless otherwise shows up & may be will still hate you and treat you as an enemy. I was in a bus going to university then that situation happened. One of the passengers told the driver in a rude way that he wants another banknote because the change he was given was badly torn. Logically – and yet not so normally – the driver replied in a worse accent “Look at the money you have just given me before you open your mouth”. Two people who have never seen anything bad from the other are just treating each other as enemies. As if giving the other torn money is an insult. Why do people like to show anger and hatred? Is it for showing strength? Dignity? Honor? I don’t think so, but unfortunately they do think so. The most honorable man Prophet Muhammad would have done as they did when he was hurt. Or they think they have more dignity than him? When will the outrage is replied with goodness, you will be able to beat yourself and yet feel you are the better whatever the other thinks about you.